A relationship becomes more routine, less spontaneous, and sometimes even a little boring when many years or even decades have passed. In order to rekindle that lustful love feeling we need to remove the common daily distractions such as children, career demands, and the weekend to-do list. Every now and then we need to stoke those smoldering embers into a blazing fire. Do you not know where to start? Listed below are 10 date night ideas to get you thinking.
1. First Date Jitters
Recreate what you did on your first date together. Do you remember how excited and nervous you were for that first date? You might not even have the same memories, which is part of the fun. Who asked who out? Was it done face to face or over the phone? Were you picked up at your place? Or did you meet at a bar, get drunk, and had crazy sex without brushing your teeth first? Or did you have a regular date (maybe the bar scene is a proper date – LOL)? What did you do? Where did you go? Do you remember what you wore (or did not wear)?
Plan your “new” first date together. Decide when and what you are going to do. Try to recreate each moment from the time you were asked out to the end of the date. Think outside the box; if things have changed, have fun, it is all about role-playing and reliving your earliest memories of each other. Do you have a favorite photo from when you first started dating? Recreate the photo with a similar background, outfit and positioning. A tripod will help if you are by yourselves.
2. Live Performance
Attend a live performance. This could be anything from the theater, ballet, symphony in the park, to a live concert or a sports event. What was your first live performance together? Is there something similar happening soon or close by that you could take advantage of? Just make it unique between the both of you as it is date night!
3. Act Like A Tourist
Be a tourist in your own city or town. Go exploring and take lots of selfies together. I think sometimes we forget how beautiful and special the area where we live is and all it has to offer. So just look at it from a first time visitor’s perspective. If you have friends or family visiting from out of town, what would you suggest they do? You can also search on TripAdvisor or Yelp for local suggestions. Explore museums, other cultural experiences, the arboretum and gardens, wineries, parks, and culinary or walking tours. I am sure the list is endless. Pick something you have never done before and that you both would enjoy. I want to see your pictures – maybe not all of them 😉
4. We Are The Champions
Miniature golf requires zero experience, it is relatively inexpensive, you can play at all hours of the day or night, and it is an interactive sport where you can cheer for the other person or try to distract them from missing a putt. Make it a bit more exciting and bet on something before you begin the game or be more daring and bet on each hole for a fun date night adventure that keeps going long after the game is over.
5. Rooms Available
Leave all your worries (and kids) behind and stay at a local resort, hotel, B&B, or Airbnb for a night or two. Many places offer discounts to locals, so call to inquire directly before booking. Let them know you are celebrating a “local-cation” and is there anything special they can offer like champagne, flowers, or chocolate-covered strawberries waiting in the room. Inquire with the concierge or property owners before your arrival for their favorite restaurants or things to do. Book in advance to ensure availability. Give them a little peek into your interests and personality so they can guide you appropriately. Tapas bar hopping is not going to be enjoyable if your spouse considers fine dining to be the golden arches.
6. Romancing the Alley
Bowling is a fun date night idea for all married couples. You will laugh a lot in a funky, retro atmosphere, you get to wear matching shoes, and listen to cheesy music. There is no need to organize a separate place for dinner or drinks, as bowling alleys serve both. Bowling alleys often throw special events, such as midnight bowling, 2-for-1 discounts, and glow-in-the-dark nights. For glow-bowling, wear a white shirt to join in the fun the more white, the better. Remember to wear high-waisted pants or a longer skirt as you are bending over a lot (party foul or party starter). It is recommended that you reserve your lane in advance, and most offer online bookings.
7. Interactive Class
There are so many hands-on classes that you can do together, and some of them might even be free in your community. For example, many museums and galleries offer free art classes that mirror current exhibits. The Apple store offers free photo and video walking tours called where they take a group of ten or less outside to explore basic to advanced techniques together. Attend a fun bar or pub trivia night. Most communities have an abundance of classes such as cooking, painting, pottery, dancing, or singing. The list is endless. Take two different courses with a focus on the other person’s likes. It gives you a different perspective of your partner and an appreciation for their interests and vice versa.
8. Who’s Got Game
Nothing spurs on sexual tension like a friendly, competitive game. Make a game night at home a bit more interesting. Pop open the champagne, wear something a bit more fun or seductive and get your game on (literally!). Try a new game you have not played before to level the playing field or choose one specifically for couples. If all else fails, strip poker is always a win-win.
9. Laughter The Best Medicine
Laughter is central to relationships. Laughing for an hour or two helps to dissolve all the nitpicking we do with those we love the most. Studies show that laughing with others releases endorphins in the brain – our feel-good chemical. Laugh a week’s worth of stress away by attending a local comedy show together. It might just be the best therapy for any marriage.
10. Homemade Goodness
One of my favorite date night ideas is cooking together at home. This requires the participation of both parties. Depending on each person’s skill level, choose a recipe or meal that you both will enjoy preparing and eating. Make it a bit more fun by wear matching aprons, pour your preferred beverage, and turn on your favorite tunes. This might also stimulate a little dancing in the kitchen. Before dinner is served, set the table a bit more special than usual, light some candles, and change into a festive outfit. Enjoy the fruits of your labor.